I’ve declared, in the initial posts of this blog, that I’m going to use Sailing as a challenge, as a symbol, as a metaphor for Life.
For this post, though, I’m going to use it as a metaphor for sailing. I mean, let’s be honest, everyone: Sailing is a perfectly good pursuit, in and of and by itself. “Sailing beyond the sunset,” even though I’ve been using that as a metaphor (as did Alfred, Lord Tennyson, when he wrote Ulysses as an exercise in poetic licence), is also a valid and perfectly-proper goal.
It’s not a goal to be taken lightly. It’s serious, and arduous, and yet there are thousands of people who have taken small sailboats around the world – some of them, again and again.
The Joshua Slocum Society is an organization whose purpose is to record, acknowledge, and praise the people who have sailed solo around the world. Alone, all by themselves. It was named after the fellow who was first to achieve this, the first to chronicle his passages in the mainstream media of the day. Slocum’s Sailing Alone Around The World is a classic tale, from a laconic Nova Scotia-born “Yankee” and a seriously-credentialed mariner; I encourage you to read the Project Gutenberg book at the link above.
Sailing, furthermore, is not an exclusively-masculine avocation.
It doesn’t take literal, physical, testicular “balls” to sail beyond the sunset, or to compete as a sailor, or to win the highest accolades as a sailor. Look at Jessica Watson, or Ellen MacArthur, or sailor/author Tania Aebi for proof.
The point of the links in the paragraph above, is that there are women who have achieved success and even fame in their exploits … in an area which excites me and grabs my interest. They, too, are heroes to me. They have accomplished something that I, presently, only aspire to complete. I would value the chance to listen to that teenage girl, Jessica Watson, who took Pink Lady around the world; and I would strive to learn all I could from her, as she has gone where I want to go! (I have learned from Tania Aebi’s Maiden Voyage, the book she wrote after her own circling of the globe.)
It takes a lot of confidence to sail away on your own, to watch the solid safe horizon fade into an insubstantial blur off the stern and finally disappear. It takes more than I’ve demonstrated, yet; I am still a Chesapeake Bay sailor, working up my competence and my confidence until someday I might let the land sink below the horizon and sail on to a destination that lies too far ahead of my bow to be seen. Till I actually “get there,” till I’ve actually done that, I willingly offer my admiration to anyone who has been there, and done that, and earned the salt-stained T-shirt.
The Sea doesn’t care whether you’re male or female, young or old, black or white or Asian or Hispanic or whatever else or whatever mix. The Sea cares only whether you’re prepared or not, whether you’re capable or not, whether you’re able to handle its challenge … or not. You don’t pass the challenge of The Sea by mouthing the appropriate polemic, or by having the Society-approved credentials, or by asserting your qualifications before suitably-approved judges. You won’t be granted a “pass” by ranting at it, or claiming discrimination, or suing it, or holding protest marches through the streets. You can only pass the challenge of the Sea by surmounting the difficulties and hazards of the Sea, and actually succeeding in following and achieving your goals.
The realities of wind, and tide, and storms, and The Sea Itself give not a damn for anything but your competence, your grit, your proper preparations, and your right decisions when the shit hits the fan.
That’s why I will extend my respect and admiration – without reservation – to women who have gone out there and won the contest against the Sea. Women like Tania Aebi, like Jessica Watson, like Dame Ellen MacArthur, DBE, who tied the knot in their wake and sailed home.
I am not fuckin’-well kidding. The game I want to play is not about competition; it’s about accomplishment. Anyone who has achieved the goals to which I aspire, I regard as worthy of my respect! And I admire anyone, man or woman, even a woman who is young enough to be my grand-daughter, who has achieved this brilliant, difficult, exciting and worthy goal toward which I am just starting to reach.
Joshua, Tania, Jessica, I am preparing to follow in your wake.
BeijaFlor,
I also respect people who can do things like this. Precisely because I can’t .
And unlike you, I am unlikely even to try it!
I have noticed this about myself: I am unlikely to respect something or someone who can do what I can do, i.e. who is just like me. I will admire them, yes, but not necessarily respect them, as in be in awe of them…
I don’t know if it is a female trait…
I notice that men will respect anyone who shares their own characteristics…
Is this an over-generalisation?
I don’t know, Spacetraveller. I don’t know.
There’s a funny “flip side” to your statement, for me, in that I don’t so-much “pride myself” on accomplishing things that not many other people do.
F’r instance, I’ve heard that a lot of people feel that kind of “hero worship” for pilots – for aviators. I’ve had friends who told me that “identity” was something to be very proud of. But I was never able to view my own identity as an aviator as a “big deal,” because it was still only plain-old me who had achieved it.
If I do manage to live my dream and sail around the world, I will enjoy the experience; I will cherish every day, even the worst and the scariest; but I will stop viewing the Slocum Society Experience as “such a big thing,” because once again it will “still only be just-plain-old-me” who achieved it.
Funny thing about that, eh?
A good point, and well taken, it is definitely a great accomplishment. I think it’s also a function of how closely your own interest in any given field follows the accomplishment. I’ve never wanted to sail around the world, therefore my interest is minimal.
Feel free to shoot me a line at enclosed email, if you wish.
Navy Corpsman
BeijaFlor,
I see it again in your words…
The whole ‘outcome independence’ thing.
I respect that because it isn’t something that comes naturally to me
I am beginning to see that on the whole, it is a masculine trait. But some women can do it easily, and kudos to them. I hope one day, I can count myself among them. I am still on that journey…
Hello BeijaFlor. I’m the 35 years younger you. I took this pill you see, about two years ago, now I’m sitting on a beach (non-sandy! Damn laptops, but glorious mobile Internet) in beautiful Tasmania living a relaxed life. I’m glad I escaped that cube. Unfortunately in 5 months time I have to leave as my visa expires. But there’s always Canada, New Zealand, teaching English in Asia, all kinds of crazy adventures!
But first I’m going back home to tour some islands I love and to work as crew on a small tourist sailing yacht (46′ is all I’ve been told.) In the meantime I’m working 30 hours a week while saving plenty of money since I have no expenses and working on my own software company which brings in a little but one day I’ll be completely location independent. As an added bonus I’ll be flying home via Hong Kong where I will set up a second company to avoid paying taxes that feed the system, plus much lower taxes for me!
I say I’m the younger you because I also love to sail and intend to be a liveaboard/cruiser within 3 years which seems like a long time for me but it’s the most realistic and I’m enjoying living my life from a backpack.
The sea is less than 3 metres away so I’ll wrap up…
I’m telling you all this because I don’t want you to quit blogging. I have so many friends suffering. Fortunately one of my best friends recently quit his job, sold his house and is off for an adventure around the world and has started a small web design company to provide him with just enough to live off. All because of manosphere bloggers like you.
You are making a difference.
I also hope you will put some cash in the kitty and start sailing soon, remember, go small, go now!
Rowan,
Good on you! Early twenties and already on your way. Three years looked like a long time when I was your age, but build up your sailing experience and your kitty and you’ll get there soon. Working on that tourist yacht is a great start, and if you hang around yachting ports you can very-likely get a place as watch-standing crew on a passage-maker.
A couple of books you might look u are Larry & Lin Pardey’s Self-Sufficient Sailor and Fatty Goodlander’s Buy, Outfit & Sail. Pardey’s book is a classic for the would-be world cruiser. I’m only one-third through Cap’n Fatty’s book, but it starts with the idea of finding “a boat with a problem and a ticking clock” – one that hasn’t sold, and must sell soon – and blarney’ing the owner into selling it to you, for pennies on the (asking-price) dollar. It’s what Fatty did himself; he bought his present yacht, “Wild Card,” off the beach after Hurricane Hugo with a huge hole in it, then repaired the damage and sailed away. This would work particularly well for a young man with way more energy than equity … just buy the book, will you? (Amazon Kindle e-book so it won’t weigh you down.)
You’re already setting up your Five Flags, I see, to become a Perpetual Tourist … I admire your good sense and your young start. Hope I meet you out there some day!
Thanks very much BeijaFlor, I hope we can meet one day too!
cool thoughts sailing around the world, lots of gumption and difficulty. I like tranquil sailing with no 50 foot waves but you seem to want to feel a squal with no end in site and just to see if you could make it. Good thoughts
“Squall with no end in sight?” No thank you; the goal is challenge enough without that. But a cruiser can’t depend on missing every squall on the ocean, either.
You need to be prepared for the worst, with the means & equipment to handle it – a storm can blow up any time – but I’m not talking about going out looking for it intentionally. Every ocean, at least around the warm & pleasant latitudes, has its “storm season”, and prudent cruisers do their open-ocean sailing during the “non-storm” season.
My boat is spending the winter on the hard, this year; but once I get her back in the water, I’ll be spending some time practicing my storm tactics (shortening sail, heaving-to, deploying a sea-anchor) in pleasant weather. The idea is to know what I’m doing beforehand, so I’m not trying to figure it out when the nasty weather comes along.
¨You need to be prepared for the worst, with the means & equipment to handle it – a storm can blow up any time – but I’m not talking about going out looking for it intentionally. Every ocean, at least around the warm & pleasant latitudes, has its “storm season”, and prudent cruisers do their open-ocean sailing during the “non-storm” season.¨
You may find that a bigger problem is a flat, windless sea. If there is not some weather going through in those ¨warm & pleasant latitudes¨ it is usually too calm.